Introducing
a way oracle guidebook
essentially, you are the guide, this are just prompts to guide your journey
essentially, you are the guide, this are just prompts to guide your journey
Warning: This deck and guidebook were created by a human being—one who is simply out here existing, learning, and growing. I offer this to you with an open heart, in the hope that it will inspire you to cultivate your own practice of deep connection—both with your body and the stories held within it. May it help you acknowledge and release what is ready to be released.
That said, I ask for your grace. If you come across any misprints or imperfections, please know that I tried my best to make this as seamless as possible, while at the same time, surrendering to the reality that within this human experience, perfection is an illusion.
With that, I offer you: a way.
This deck was born out of having to find my own way after losing my mum. Before Her dying, I thought I had lost all I would. We know that our parents will die, but never really know, until they do. Change is constant. Loss, happens when you least expect it and in ways you may never have imagined.
Desperate for a way to maintain connection with my mum, I presented her with my favourite tarot decks, asked her which tarot deck she would want to use to communicate with me. With the deck she chose, I communicated with her for years, asking her questions, for advice, for affirmations, messages, signs, anything to feel connected. Using the tarot as prompts I also wrote her letters, created art for her and cultivated a practice of remembering and releasing. This deck is an extension of that.
I’ve taken words I’ve written, photos I’ve taken and art I’ve created to create this oracle deck, and so much more I can’twait to share. The images and art in this oracle deck, are a visual representation of the last 8 years. Over this time I travelled, creating my own pilgrimage, led by an internal compass so far removed from me, i had no idea until it recently, that i was travelling the path of my haplogroup L1b13a via a series of last minute field trips of self discovery, healing and renewal from Nubia to Spain with any stops in-between.
Each card carries a message, a sensation, and a practice—bridging the seen and unseen, the past and future, the self and the collective.
This deck is not about providing a prescribed method for processing your grief, it is about honouring grief’s process, giving it space, and allowing the body to guide you toward healing. Whether you are mourning a loss, navigating change or uncovering ancestral wounds, these cards are here to support you.
Finding a way through hard times and grief while deeply personal, often involves a mix of surrender and action — accepting what is, while also seeking movement forward. It can feel like a thick invisible veil, disturbing your vision. Making it even harder to move forward without parts of you that you’ve grown accustomed to, that have always been there.
I found it (and still do) hard to move forward without my mom, my babies that are no longer babies, old friends, ways of being, and so on, but I do. We, do. Somehow we find our way.
Watching my mom navigating the world as a black single mother, working so hard to make it seem easy instilled I'm me that there is always a way. So did her saying it over and over again in her daily prayers, pleading for the way to be shown, to be made, and ISTG, each and every time, a way was made, even if it's only made by taking one small step at a time, a way always appeared.
A way oracle deck does not come with rigid definitions. The images are fluid and will tell a different story each and every time you encounter them, just as emotions shift and stories evolve. You can use the deck alone, as a companion to other oracle and tarot decks, or as a mirror for whatever you are experiencing in the moment.
Multiple layers/themes of grief can be applied to your reading for deeper ex-ploration, below area few:
Ancestry + Lineage
These cards explore the grief carried through generations and the wisdom within our ancestral support system
Embodied Grief
These cards explore the physicality of grief and the ways it manifests in the body.
Transformation + Release
These cards focus on the process of letting go , evolving and embracing new forms of existence after loss.
Ritual + Ceremony
These cards center on creating sacred spaces for grief, honoring loss and inte-grating emotions
Cycles + Elements
These cards connect grief to nature’s rhythms and the elements that hold our sorrow
"A Way" suggests there isn’t just one path, but many. The journey through grief is non-linear, winding, and unique to each person. Sometimes the way is found in stillness, sometimes in seeking, and sometimes in unexpected moments of grace.
I used to talk myself into circles often, and listen as others put circles around me, barricading me in my/ their vision. Their circles, much smaller than the ones I created for myself but, I found ways to fit.
Now, circles I talk myself into expand into other circles that reach out to other circles. Stepping further away I see how the circles connect, making fractals and building community.
Within these circles, I am planted alongside other plants that reach for me from their root. They take what they need, and feed me with just the right amount of nutrients, strength- ening my own ability to meet my own needs, together we grow gardens and build community. Together our circles expand into ancestral realms, where our people hold space for us, as we make our way. That's what me and my people do and for that, I will be eternally grateful.
My mum + dad. They have to be pulling strings and for that, asé.
Ximuna + Kahero, ugh. I’ve known love, but never like this. Thank you.
To my soul sibling, d’bi, thank you for the way you cover my feet with soil. Tuku, the way you water me, is unmatched. Karin, thank you for always reminding me who I am. Rina, for always pushing me forward, thank you, more please. Raven, thank you for shining.
All my friends and family, thank you for the light you shine my way, your encouragement and support throughout the years has meant the world to me!!!
Finally, THANK YOU. Thank you for your support over the last few years. The check ins, the encounters out in the world. Truthfully I was overwhelmed by the support I received from the witches brew community following my mom's passing.Your support through that kept me connected to this world.
Also, thank you to the new friends I will make along this journey.
Thank you
Thank you
Thank you
so much!
Enclosed you will find 71 cards: 69 Oracle Cards created with so much love and intention by me, behbeit. 1 card detailing an upcoming project, 1 blank card for note taking, bookmarking or whatever you choose, and a 100 page booklet
You will find new meaning in the cards each time you use them. You will be surprised by how you may notice something that didn’t come up the last time you received that card in a reading.
The cards are forgiving, and lend themselves to each situation you encounter, never punishing, they are intended to shift your focus, give you room to think about things differently, affirm your position, give gentle guidance and help you move through whatever it is you are grieving or letting go of.
Shuffle the deck with an open heart and a willingness to explore your grief journey.
Draw a single card for daily reflection or use one of the sample oracle spreads that follow in this section
Engage with the cards on a physical level if it resonates, this may involve breath work, movement, vocalization, or stillness.
Journal your thoughts and physical sensations as you work with each card.
Head - what thoughts are shaping my grief?
Heart - What emotions need to be acknowledged?
Body - where am I feeling this the most?
What grief have I inherited?
What wisdom do my ancestors offer?
How can I honour this lineage?
What can I release?
What am I holding onto?
What is shifting within me?
What must I surrender?
What wisdom does my body hold?
What is being reborn within me?
Again, I’d like to reiterate, there is no system, just possibility in whatever you see when you encounter each card. These are prompts, but in no way define the meaning of these cards. You’ll see, each time you go to them, they will give exactly what you need in that moment. They are not punishing cards, they illuminate areas where you can challenge yourself to push forward. I was able to generate a lot of joy for myself when I started making these cards, even when examining all the grief I was experiencing. I hope that even in your darkest time, you too will be able to cultivate a practice of examining your grief and find a way to release it.
a way, when there doesn’t seem to be any
possible way,
a
way,
ANY
way
appears
Don’t be reckless
in your
abandon.
But
abandon it all,
even for a
moment.
Loss changes
you, as water
changes earth.
In that change,
something new
is forged out of
the mud.
You area a
sacred space,
a space to
return to.
A quenching of
spirit
An offering
Unspoken words,
regret, and the
longing for closure.
Sometimes,
forgiveness is for
yourself.
Begin
A new
chapter is
on the
other side
of this
Be your
whole
self
always
Celebrate
what has
grown wings
A sacred
release, a
moment of
surrender to
the forces
greater than
yourself.
Grief is vast. Do
not fear its
depths—that is
where
transformation
begins.
The sky is
always
clearest, when
it becomes
real
Grief needs grounding.
The body must feel the
weight of sorrow to
release it.
Do not forget
to feed your
journey
Grief touches all things. It
reshapes your world,
changes your perception,
expands your heart,
holding everything at
once.
ou, Your
world are a
changing
thing
honestly, have no fear
you
are
the
feast
on whatever
you want
Space between,
the moment life
loosens, even
briefly
Be gentle with your
release, be tender
with your pain
Offer
yourself
compassion
in your grief.
Soften your
strong.
Know that
you are
loved
It is heavier
than the world
You will know
it when you are
met with it
A flicker,
a whisper—even when
unseen.
A new day exists
beyond this, look
forward.
Connection beneath
the surface. Grief
links us in unseen
ways
There are
kingdoms within
you
hold them with care
the road travelled well
You are the ruler of
your own grief. No one
else can dictate how
you mourn.
Don’t forget
where you come
from
Till we meet again
Beyond
Bloodlines — grief
and belonging
we exist
This grief
is yours.
Claim
it, name it,
hold it.
what do you see
o the surface
inside?
movement is not betrayal
We
can
hope.
Beginnings
born from
darkness.
Feed your
people
Allow grief to
move through
you.
Resistance
only deepens
the wound.
Don’t let them
tell you
different
A
doorway,
a liminal
threshold.
Portal
a gateway to
trans-
formation
Silence
holds its
own
healing
emerge
you are
becoming
what do you see?
The weight is not
meant to be carried
forever.
a slow
return to
yourself
by all means necessary
each time ,
you meet it
differently
A moment ready for
transformation.
Something within you is
prepared.
heavy presence,
an ache in the
bones. Sadness is
not a problem to be
solved but an
emotion to be felt.
Let it move through
you without
resistance.
Grief often carries
guilt—"What if I had done
more?" Release the burden
of responsibility for what
was never in your control.
Forgiveness begins with
you.
The unseen aspects of
grief—the anger, the
shame, the unresolved
wounds. Turn toward
your shadow with
curiosity, not fear.
Grief needs a
safe space. Find
the people,
places, or
practices that
offer you refuge
A temporary
journey, a period of
wandering. Trust the
movement, even
when the
destination is
unclear.
Let it
rage
it
will
pass.
A feeling of being frozen
in time, unable to move
forward. Change begins
with the smallest shift—
breathe, stretch, take one
step.
Call out for
what you
need, in song,
in prayer in
joy, call out,
It will fall from
the sky
Let it
wash over
you
Forever
making
a way
within you is the
home you seek
outside of yourself
thank you,
more
please
It’s not
always the
worst place
to be
by
whatever
means
necessary
Grief hides and
Returns, playing
in the
shadows
waiting
There to help us
choose a
different
direction
Be
mindful
not to
pour
from an
empty
vessel